The Adventure Begins 05/09/98
During my college psychology class, one of my homework assignments was to take a personality assessment questionnaire so that I could better understand myself (this is where we all start singing Kumbaya). After I answered the questions and was reading about all my wonderful strengths , I noticed a box to the right that said:
“Click here to take the couples assessment quiz. Are you right for each other?”
I immediately clicked on the box and answered my set of questions. I then ran into the living room and plopped my laptop into my husband’s lap and told him to answer the questions too. He was less than enthused, but I told him this assessment would show us how compatible we were. It would be tons of fun!
But it didn’t say we were compatible and I ended up in tears. In fact at the end of the assessment, it recommended I walk away from the relationship and look elsewhere as the chances of us making a life-time commitment work were less than 15%. Those are not good odds people! Ironically at the time I took the assessment we had been married for 8 years, but of course all I could think about was the compatibility quiz said we were doomed.
Today I celebrate my 15th anniversary with the man this assessment test told me to walk away from. Had I taken this ridiculous questionnaire when we were dating and was actually foolish enough to end our relationship this is what I would have missed out on.
*A man who wasn’t even old enough to sign his own marriage certificate (Glen was only 17 when we married), but has been man enough to make this marriage work through some very rough years.
*A man who instead of being one of the 80% of guys who leave their wife after being diagnosed with a major chronic illness is one of the 20% and has never left my side.
*A man who has helped me clean up broken olive oil jars off our kitchen floor more times than I care to admit because his wife is clumsy and accident prone.
*A man who has supported me in everything I have ever tried to do and has been one of my biggest cheerleaders. (Glen is the one who found an old novella I wrote when we were moving and encouraged me to begin writing again.)
*A man who watches sappy love movies with me on a Friday night without complaining…most of the time
*A man who picks me up white chocolate caramel covered apples when I’ve had a hard day just because he loves to make me smile.
*A man who finds me attractive no matter how many times my pant size has changed and still tells me I’m beautiful on a regular basis.
Glen and I are very different people. We have had to probably work harder at communication and compromise than other couples who just naturally speak the same love language. What that assessment didn’t take into consideration though is that love is a choice. If anything, knowing we have chosen to make our marriage work despite the fact that we aren’t “compatible,” shows me how much love there really is between us.
I don’t doubt for one second that God brought Glen into my life and God knows me better than some silly online assessment. God knew we would hit some bumps in the road, but thankfully He also knew with His help we would work them out. Thank you Lord for blessing me with my husband.
Now…here are ten facts you probably never wanted to know about me and my man.
1) I met Glen my senior year of high school at a roller skating rink. I was instantly drawn to him because he was so shy and kept running away from me.
We were inseparable.
2) He was the first one to say, “I love you,” one night when we were talking on the phone. I didn’t want to say it back because I thought he would think I was saying it only because he said it first so instead I awkwardly hung up the phone.
3) Glen loves fish and they inspired one of the sweetest things he has ever said to me, “Just like a fish would die without water…I would die without you.”
This was taken shortly after we got engaged.
4) Despite living in an upstairs apartment, Glen drug up the ginormous live Christmas tree I picked out for our first Christmas together as a married couple. All of our neighbors watched and clapped when we made it to the top of the stairs.
We had very little furniture which was a good thing. This tree was huge!
5) Glen took me to my senior prom and we spent the night watching everyone eat all this yummy food because we were broke and thought it cost money. As we were leaving, we found out the buffet was included in our ticket price. I had to be home at a certain time so we didn’t get to try one single thing.
Senior Prom 1997
6) We went to Disneyland for our honeymoon because I found an amazing vacation package that included our airline tickets for $800.00.
Our Honeymoon at Disneyland.
7) A couple months after we were married Glen took me on a camping trip. When we got there we found out we couldn’t start a fire or even use a grill because of it being so dry. We came up with the not so brilliant idea of using a small propane burner in our tent and ending up melting a big hole in my dad’s tent. Thankfully my dad wasn’t mad.
Glen taught me how to fish for trout on this trip.
8) I gave birth to our son without any pain medicine. Towards the end of my labor, I was no longer able to talk and Glen got worried. Our midwife told him to say something encouraging and this is what my husband came up with. “Baby, you are doing so good. I’m going to buy you a steak. I’m going to buy you a steak.” It still makes me laugh to this day.
We look so young!
9) On our 5th wedding anniversary, we were in Gatlinburg, TN and I decided it would be a great idea for us to go on a romantic horse ride through the mountains. About five minutes into the trip, my horse began walking along the ridge with a steep drop and I was convinced my horse was suicidal. I was so frightened that I got off my horse and refused to finish the ride even though we had passed the point where we could get a refund.
Glen’s horse was huge! I refuse to post a picture of me and my suicidal horse.
10) On our 10th wedding anniversary we went on a cruise to Mexico. On our excursion to swim with the dolphins, Glen gave me all his turns with the dolphins because I was so excited and I probably would still be there if they would have let me stay.
A local vendor in Mexico had these pet monkeys running around. They were so cute.
Happy Anniversary Glen! You bring such meaning to my life and you are my best friend. Looking forward to making more memories together. And just for fun, I will end this post with the phrase we ended every love note…Forever and Then Some!
This was taken in the beautiful Opryland Hotel in Nashville, TN.
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